A THOUGHT FROM ME
“What would change if you trusted yourself half as much as you trust other people’s opinions?”
DOES THIS SOUND FAMILIAR?
You may spend a lot of time questioning your decisions, replaying conversations in your mind or wondering whether you’ve made the right choice. Even when things work out well, there can still be a part of you looking back, wondering whether there was a better option you should have taken.
Over time, this can become exhausting. Instead of moving forwards with confidence, you find yourself analysing, second-guessing and searching for certainty, often long after a decision has already been made.
WHAT MAY REALLY BE HAPPENING?
What many people don’t realise is that self-doubt often starts out looking sensible. It can feel responsible, cautious and even protective. Yet at some point, self-doubt stops being caution and starts becoming a habit.
I often find that people spend far more time questioning their decisions than questioning the fears behind them. Rather than asking, “What if I get this wrong?”, it can be more useful to ask, “What am I afraid might happen if I trust myself?” Underneath self-doubt there is often a fear of failure, criticism, rejection or making a mistake that feels difficult to recover from.
A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE
Trusting yourself doesn’t mean believing you’ll always get things right. Nobody does. It means believing that even if you make a mistake, you’ll be able to learn from it, adapt and move forwards.
The people who trust themselves most are rarely the people with all the answers. More often, they’re the people willing to back themselves without needing certainty before they take the next step.
SOMETHING TO CONSIDER
If you trusted yourself just a little more than you do today, what decision might you stop delaying?
